Cheating – together or lonely after the infidelity?
If you can believe the statistics, every second one of us cheats at least once in our life and has fun in foreign beds. But what causes women or men to seek sexual fulfillment abroad? Is it the attraction of the new or do you just get the confirmation that you don’t (anymore) get at home?
The reasons for a fling
Curiosity and exploration of sexuality affect mostly young inexperienced couples. But many couples have been in long-term relationships and even if hardly anyone wants to admit it: at some point the great love will subside, you are often only with your partner out of habit. And sex? Sex is a means to an end and becomes less and less common as the relationship progresses. Wishes are no longer expressed and certainly not fulfilled, one is neglected. ( Silence in the relationship) Woman or man no longer feels desired and attractive, falls into self-doubt. Some women often try to get their love life going at home again with a pretty hairstyle or new sexy lingerie. But as so often in life, the partner loses sight of it from time to time – and habit and everyday stress blind him to such stimuli. If at such a moment someone else says how great you look or maybe how good you smell, then it can happen: You do something that you already regret hours, but often only a few minutes later – you become unfaithful.
The majority of cheaters claim to love their partner despite slipping up. Many hide the brief dalliance and burden themselves with the burden of a bad conscience for the next few decades. But many also have no feelings of guilt because they believe they have gotten what they were often denied in their own beds: recognition, self-esteem or even the allure of the new. Others, on the other hand, are plagued and anxiously confess the nightly bed story at home.
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Cheating – chance of survival for the relationship
Playing with fire abroad can be invigorating for some relationships, but it can also mean the beginning of the end. Forgiving a partner’s infidelity is not easy. As a betrayed person, you are usually insecure and offended, trust is broken and must slowly be rebuilt. However, many betrayed have taken a misstep by their partner as an opportunity to reconsider their relationship and, above all, to revive it. If you really care about the relationship, then try to work through this mostly unique event together and forgive it. If you don’t succeed, it will still be a major bone of contention in the relationship for years to come. Often it’s just little things that aren’t said, because everyone lives in their own world and is so busy with themselves that that he completely forgets about the other and takes him for granted. Talking to each other, expressing wishes and expectations and above all “talking about sex and doing it” could probably have prevented many an infidelity. If you don’t learn anything from it despite your partner’s missteps, it’s better to go your own way in the future. Most of them have a reason why they cheat, hardly anyone does it just out of sheer lust – and often it is a last wake-up call for the relationship that is slowly falling asleep. it’s better to go it alone in the future. Most of them have a reason why they cheat, hardly anyone does it just out of sheer lust – and often it is a last wake-up call for the relationship that is slowly falling asleep. it’s better to go it alone in the future. Most of them have a reason why they cheat, hardly anyone does it just out of sheer lust – and often it is a last wake-up call for the relationship that is slowly falling asleep.
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