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Compromises in the partnership

Compromises in the partnership

How many compromises can a relationship take?

When you’re just falling in love and maybe you’ve been through a few failed relationships, you want to do whatever it takes to make it all work out this time. “In order to please my boyfriend and to please him, I totally gave up on myself. I had to give up on all my dear friends because Sven didn’t like them. We withdrew completely into our own four walls and suddenly had no more friends and no longer want to do anything,” says Ann, who is now 40. Many couples have already experienced something similar. Compromises are part of every relationship. But where exactly is the line between compromise and self-abandonment and how can you find it?
Also read: Selfishness in the relationship


Happiness through compromise?

Compromises in partnership have a pretty bad image for the most part. Why is that? The word “compromise” often has a bad connotation because it is usually equated with losing. In a compromise – it is thought – there is only one winner and one loser. But does that also apply to a relationship? Not necessarily. Whether at work or in the family: With every single social contact, a certain degree of adjustment or willingness to compromise is necessary from everyone involved, especially in a relationship. And so begins our journey to the land of compromises.

The “golden middle”

A relationship can only work if both partners feel comfortable and happy. When a couple is past the infatuation phase, conflicts are more likely to arise than when the relationship started. This is because each partner has their own preferences and needs. If you want to settle the conflict, you should find a compromise. Both partners waive part of their demands and meet each other. Some may be tempted to give in to their partner’s desires and desires and say yes and amen to everything naturally. That would automatically mean self-abandonment. Giving up on yourself makes you unhappy and sick in the long run. It is obvious that it is not always easy to make compromises. However, a relationship thrives on mutual give and take. And it is also worthwhile for a partnership to accept and heed the wishes of the other person, as it automatically means creating your own freedom.

Tips for implementing compromises

Be open about your feelings with your partner and tell them directly if you see yourself as a constant loser in the conflicts. Find a suitable time and a pleasant, undisturbed environment. Address the problem directly, for example when it comes to your friends or your free time. The conversation should take place in the first person, as it is ultimately about your views and opinions. Create your own freedom by keeping your distance from your partner. A relationship thrives on a healthy mix of closeness and distance. Find a hobby you enjoy or go out with your friends. They will then have a lot to tell each other, which can enrich a relationship immensely.


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