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Single fathers

Single fathers

Help, I’m a single dad!

It’s hardly an art to manage your life on your own. Things get serious when fathers and mothers have to take responsibility for other people in addition to themselves. And fathers in particular often suddenly find themselves in the role of single parents, while mothers think about this step for a very long time and carefully weigh the pros and cons. It is mostly the fathers who are abandoned by their wives and confronted with a fait accompli. A shock! How am I supposed to do all this? Balancing work, household and children. Completely irrational fears are spreading. How do I manage the time pressure? What do the neighbors think? Sometimes the fears are justified. Children are not necessarily conducive to professional careers in particular. The risk of losing your job increases as well as the chance of finding a new one decreases. The compatibility of work and family is not only a challenge for women, but also for men. The fathers continue to fear that they will not be able to find a new life partner. Although women in particular are looking for responsible men. After all, adventures are for one night. Down-to-earth men something for life. (Tips for abandoned men )

The so-called paternal families are represented in all social strata. There is no differentiation between earning potential, social background or level of education. Single fathers can be found everywhere. And yet they are still perceived as exotic by society, if they are even recognized in everyday life. Neighbors in particular and even their own parents are skeptical about the matter. Can one man take care of three children? The tasks of the children’s social network and also of the household traditionally tend to fall back on the children’s mothers. Discussions with the educators in the day care center, meetings on the playground, the sports club or school events.


Suddenly a single father – how to cope with everyday life

Especially in the immediate period after the separation and standing before a fait accompli, fathers have a hard time. They have to find their own rhythm, structure the day and record all the tasks that they will have to do on their own in the future. Things can get chaotic, especially during this transitional period. That’s fine. In the end, the preference rests with the children. They are the most important thing, not the perfectly sorted laundry or the meticulously cleaned children’s room. In the early days alone with dad, the children simply need love, understanding and stability. There is no doubt that things must not get completely out of hand. But surprisingly, single fathers voluntarily accept help from outside, which is given to them in particular by women, including those from their own family and friends.

Single fathers often don’t have it easy!

Being a single father is a very demanding job. It can quickly happen that the battery is empty and everything just saps your strength. With their new life situation and all the responsibility, the fathers must not forget themselves, even if it is not easy. Everybody needs time for themselves, even if it is just a little bit – even a single father. Therefore, one should not have a bad conscience about pursuing a hobby, rediscovering old friends or making new ones. How and whether the children are involved in this naturally depends entirely on the wishes and needs of the fathers.

Being a single father can mean unleashing unimaginable skills and being shown new possibilities. The time and personal bond that one gains with the children as a single father are irreplaceable and priceless.
But it doesn’t mean you have to be alone. After all, single parenting only means that the mother of the child or children does not live in the household, but not that you cannot find a new partner. (More about the patchwork family )


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