When you become a father in old age
Little Daniel is picked up in the children’s area of the shopping center. “Daniel, your grandpa is here!” calls the supervisor. “That’s not my grandpa, that’s papa!” Daniel replies quite naturally and rushes over to the supposed grandfather to greet him with a big hug.
Late fathers are not that uncommon
Every twentieth child born has a father over the age of fifty. This does not bother the young children at all. The fathers enjoy it. Society, on the other hand, has little understanding for late fathers. It is unnatural and only conditionally good for the child, according to the views of many Germans. Not only expectant mothers are getting older, but also fathers. While women’s fertility is limited, men can still father children into old age – and this is done out of conviction. Fathers who are late in particular have usually already left another relationship behind, and there are often children from this relationship.
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Tips for older dads
The older children of sprightly fathers usually take it easy, they are usually tolerant of the new sibling and the new partner, who may even be significantly younger than their own mother and who could even be their own sister. Because the adult children from an early relationship instinctively feel that it is good for their father and that he is enjoying his life. The bitter aftertaste is probably the feeling and the wish that the father had had as much time for his child during his own childhood as he has now. More about the patchwork family
Because this is one of the reasons why men would still like to have offspring even in older years. They are very often aware of the lost time, which they were unable to spend with their first children, mostly for professional reasons. They want to do better and have the advantage that important career steps are already behind them and they don’t have the feeling that they are missing out on something professionally or simply accept it with approval. Well aware of the benefits they achieve: time with their own child, irretrievable impressions and bonds. The partners of the late fathers are very aware of this fact, which is why they are happy to engage in such parenthood. And accept both the social and medical concerns. Finally, as is well known, it has been scientifically proven that the quality of sperm starts to decrease from the age of 35 and the risk of fathering a child with certain hereditary diseases increases with age. So the biological clock is also ticking in men. They also accept the fact that their child could become half-wise in early childhood due to the death of their father. The common opinion among mothers: everyonethis could happen to a young father as well.
Late fathers – generational conflicts inevitable?
Another point of criticism from many outsiders is the inevitable generational conflict . Every parent grew up in a completely different time, often has different values and expectations of the upbringing of their own children. Furthermore, children today grow up very differently than in the past. Many older fathers can no longer keep up with the fast-paced life of their children, at first it may work. As they get older, conflicts between fathers and children arise earlier than in “younger families”, and thus also between the parents themselves.
Read our tips for single fathers as well
At a young age, children do not mind their father’s age. They simply enjoy the time, the determination of their fathers and the consistency with which they are absorbed in their role as fathers. During puberty, it’s probably not just late fathers who have problems with their children and no longer understand them – this is probably a widespread phenomenon among all teenage parents. Ultimately what counts is that a child grows up in a loving environment, with parents who take their time and who would do anything for their child – no matter how old they are. Baby care
tips for “late dads”.